Marriage & Couples Counseling Overview
We have helped countless couples find the love they need and solve different types of relationship problems.
We provide marriage and couples counseling that focuses on effectively communicating with your partner through positive interactions (i.e. listening, validating the other person, using soft words, expressing appreciation, affirmation, physical affection, compliments, etc.) as opposed to negative behaviors (i.e. raising one’s voice, stating a complaint, or expressing one’s anger).
Fredrich Nietzsche once said about unhappy marriages: “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” If you’re not treating your partner like a friend (with respect, love, generosity, honesty, acceptance, unselfishness, etc), then you’re weakening the foundation of your relationship.
Couples Counseling Curriculum
Benefits of Marriage & Couples Counseling with the Lartey Wellness Group Include:
Learn how to heal & rebuild from broken promises, lying, cheating, stealing
These violations of trust almost always result in relationship problems, and is an obvious reason why a relationship fails. If the basic trust in a love relationship is repeatedly broken, problems accumulate and the motivation to stay together decreases.
We help rebuild foundations in relationships to reconcile the lost of love and respect to help couples survive a physical or emotional affair without anger or bitterness.
Re-balance of power in relationships
Couples may be more likely to break up when one partner has more decision-making power than the other. When one person makes all the decisions about activities, friends, financial matters, household matters, and vacations, the relationship isn’t balanced or loving, and quickly becomes unstable.
We help both partners equally share the decision-making power to stop the relationship from failing.
Acceptance of stereotypes in relationships
This was once a more common reason why couples break up, but it still exists today! Mistaken gender myths include beliefs such as “Men should earn more money than women” or “Women should stay at home and raise the kids.”
We help couples debunk these stereotypes, and create more realistic expectations that lead to more happiness.
Stop isolation from friends and family
New couples may isolate themselves from other people because they’re “in love and want to be together.” A brief period of cocooning is normal for many couples.
We help couples communicate the fear and insecurity felted from too much isolation and remind them that it’s far healthier to interact with other people regularly.
If one or both partners aren’t in tune with their own interests, needs, desires, future plans, goals, values, and preferences, then it’s difficult for them to build a better marriage or healthy love relationship.
We help couples explore their self-knowledge by communicating who they are and what they want in a relationship, which can prevent problems.
Build self-esteem, insecurity, and gain self-confidence
Couples break up because one partner feels unworthy of being loved. This insecurity can lead to possessiveness and dependence, which isn’t healthy for either partner in the love relationship.
We help couples rebuild their relationship by providing a safe and accepting environment to share and address one’s insecurity and jealousy.
We also help challenge and replace a partner’s dysfunctional belief about the relationship.
Stop excessive jealousy
Delusional jealousy can trigger abuse and violence, which can (and should) be why a couple breaks up!
We couples discuss the impacts and adverse effects that a partner’s delusional jealousy has on the relationship. We them develop a plan to manage and control the delusional jealousy.
Learn effective communication
We help both partners share their thoughts, feelings, opinions, values, needs, frustrations, and joys.
We also encourage couples to speak honestly and not hide their true selves, which greatly helps to strengthen their bond!
Stop control behaviors
If one partner is trying to control or manipulate the other, the relationship can become weak or destructive.
We help stop controlling behaviors including checking up on the partner, name-calling, threatening the partner, requiring the partner to check in all the time, or not allowing any deviations from the schedule.
Stop unhealthy physical behavior
Physical, intimate, and emotional abuse are attempts to gain total control over a partner.
We help couples realize that relationships like this should end immediately because they can be extremely unhealthy and detrimental to both partners. We also help couples implement caring behaviors to replace the unhealthy physical behaviors.